The Law of the Lunch
There are very few things in business that are as important
as the business lunch, about which absolutely nothing can be found in
textbooks, MBA programs, seminars or conferences. The business lunch is a respected
institution, virtually mandatory, and universally conducted according to a
fixed ritual.
He or she who does the inviting does the paying!
Conversation starts and for a long while remains in the area of seemingly idle
chatter (also known as “jibber – jabber” or “chit – chat”) about personal
interests in recreational pursuits, entertainment media,
family matters, and mutual acquaintances. And don’t forget children and
grandchildren, the Super Bowl and March Madness, the weather (but stay clear of
politics and religion). Business is finally and gradually crept up upon while
carefully avoiding any implications that the lunch exists specifically to
enhance the lunchee’s opinions about the lunchor and the lunchor’s assessment
of the lunchee (do we like each other?).
The business lunch and its rituals are based on the
established fact that important buying decisions are rarely made on price alone
or only on technical support, customer service, delivery, technical specifications
or vendor competence and reputation. The lunch exists to learn about things
that aren’t said, to help to establish and strengthen relationships of
personal trust and understanding, to create commercial friendships and compromises,
to facilitate favors hoped for and favors given, to go beyond technicalities
and legalities in getting and supporting some sort of sale.
So don’t disparage it or miss the opportunities they can
present.